Lately I've been noticing how men treat their wives and girlfriends as if they are naughty, stupid children. If a man's spouse or significant female other disagrees with him or has an idea that he doesn't like he talks to her as if she can't possibly understand what he's trying to say. He talks slowly, loudly and enunciates his words sometimes drawing out the syllables. When I was with my husband for almost 20 years I was also treated this way sometimes in front of my children or other people. It was humiliating and embarrassing and I don't know why I put up with it for so long. At some point I began to really resent it and would yell back or talk the same way back to him.
I have a friend who has to ask permission from her husband before she can plan anything. I'm finding out that his answer is almost always "no" at first and then he softens over time and will allow her to go shopping or have a friend over for dinner but on his time and not hers. Her life is not her own and she is not allowed to make any decisions. When he says no and then turns around to "give" her a little piece of what she wanted it makes it seem like he's just a prince who selflessly GAVE her something or LET HER do something. It makes me feel sorry for her and angry at her at the same time.
I don't think I will ever have a relationship with a man again. Nothing about them is attractive to me anymore. I don't want or need a man's opinions of myself or anything else in my life. I may change my mind at some point but it's something I just can't see myself doing again.
